Meet Stevie

Hi, I’m Stevie!

Founder, author, and your dating coach on a mission to rewrite the dating narrative. My goal is to empower daters, like you, to build a dating life and relationships that align with YOU. I’m burning the dating rule book and encouraging you to write your own. I believe connections and relationships grow in diverse ways, and I’m here to help you find the right dating path that leads you to the relationship you deserve.

As a British Texan, I grew up between two different worlds. From a small town in Texas to a city just north of London, love wasn’t about proximity but the moments I collected on either side of the Atlantic.

I grew up with friendship at my core in high school and college. Though dating crossed my mind, I watched contentedly from the sidelines as my friends dated, had their first kisses, and found relationships. I was a late bloomer. A personal anecdote that was once embarrassing, but is now a cherished one. In my singleness, I created my own definition of dating and relationships, and most importantly, became confident in who I was.

Now, a ten-year-plus New York City veteran, I continue to write that story (literally, and figuratively) with a found purpose to help those who know they want more. Not just to find a relationship, but to build a life and sense of self that attracts connections, dating experiences, and relationships that help us become our true selves.

My timeline

2014

I moved to New York to pursue a career in fashion. I fell into the hustle of my new life and let myself go to a world of endless nights, finance bros, and abundant culture. It was here I found myself, though I didn’t quite know it yet. My career began as a fashion assistant, consuming all fashion and NYC life advice I could from my fabulous co-workers. I sought any guidance I could get as I took to the New York dating scene with an unknown element in town, dating apps. Almost mindlessly, I began going on Bumble dates, exploring flings with neighbors and friends’ coworkers, and attempting to understand my sexuality with one-night stands.

2020

For me, dating was a freeing experimentation of the life I wanted to create for myself. Yet, I didn’t come to this realization until I lost my job in 2020, with nothing else to do but reflect on my life. As I uncovered the world of mental health and self-love, I realized I never stopped to understand what all my dating and NYC experiences meant to me. What was I dating for?

I began writing thank-you letters to my past dates, relationships, and one-night stands during my first six years in the city. From my first Bumble date to the time I lost my virginity, then to the moment I thought I found love, I unexpectedly wrote my dating memoir. A life-altering view of how dating intertwined beautifully with my life and who I was. Somehow, I wanted other daters to feel the dating clarity I had found. 

2021

Thus, The City of Dating was born! The City of Dating, A Memoir, was published in 2021, inspiring this very dating wellness platform. Beginning as a weekly dating advice column, I began sharing my dating tips and experiences. It was advice inspired by my own dating life, my friends, and NYC strangers who, unprompted, shared their dating lives with me. My determination to enjoy my dating life grew into a passion for helping others discover healthier ways to not only date but also mindfully learn and grow from each experience.

Today

I’m continuing my mission to guide a new dating narrative. Through my work with clients, our community, events, and, of course, my dating advice column, my goal is to help reshape what it means to date and find honest, real relationships. This is only the beginning. :)

Are you ready to date on your terms? Let’s make the dating world a better place together!

xx

Stevie Bowen, Certified Dating Coach, Author and Founder