A note from our founder
I wrote my first book, The City of Dating, A Memoir, after a never-ending trend of failed relationships and situationships. I felt discouraged from dating, wondering if I would ever find my so-called soulmate. To understand the meaning of dating, I wrote thank you letters to my past dates, relationships, and one-night stands in NYC—letters that were never sent but published into a book. It was only after I healed my past wounds that I learned dating shaped me into the woman I am today. And, I wanted to bring that same sense of healing to others.
Dating is more than finding one soulmate. It is a lifeline to who we are and who we are becoming. Dating opens us to a world of new connections, perspectives, cultures, and spirituality. A universal journey to be enjoyed at every stage of life. I founded The City of Dating to switch the narrative. Our mission is to create a dating narrative that encourages a dating lifestyle focused on connection by starting conversations about diverse love and relationships. The City of Dating is a community where we date on our terms. Here, we create unique paths to the relationships we deserve.
It's your story. Build your dating narrative.
xx
Stevie Bowen, Founder, Dating Coach, and Author
Our Dating Narrative
We’re bringing life back to dating. Life doesn’t begin when you find one person; it starts with you.
Here, we date on our terms… not the internet’s.
Self-advocacy and communication are our secret ingredients. Through personalized coaching, our dating advice column, workshops, and curated single-focused events, our work helps daters understand who and what they are looking for. This knowledge gives them the clarity to take actions that make their relationship goals a reality. Dating is a skill designed to be learned, and we teach it without the pressure of showing up as anyone but yourself.
We can want a relationship and celebrate our singlehood.
How we’re rewriting the dating narrative
1:1 Date Coaching
We believe dating looks different for everyone. It is not one size fits all. That’s why we’re burning the dating rule book and rebuilding our own. One not filled with strict rules but with healthy dating habits, intentions, and flexible tools that create a fulfilling dating life that leads to real connections.
Our coaching services provide a personalized space for daters to explore their needs, develop dating skills, and mindfully take action to find and build relationships that align with them. By increasing self-awareness and self-advocacy, daters become the leaders of their dating lives.
Date Advice Column
Written by our founder and dating coach, Stevie Bowen, our dating advice column is the heart of our community. Each week, we share dating tips on how to navigate the ever-changing landscape of modern dating. From IRL dating to dating apps, texting, communication, and embracing the slow burn, our dating advice column is an archival source of dating advice for those who need it.
Single Events + Workshops
We bring singles together through date-inspired activities and interactive workshops. Our goal is to create low-pressure social spaces where singles can meet people in the same chapter of life and make connections beyond romantic ones. Make new friends, expand your circle, or give out your number to someone cute. Our events are where you meet new people who also happen to be single.
Learn to celebrate your single era and date with YOU as the anchor.
The City of Dating, A Memoir, is a raw and comedic look into Stevie’s dating life in NYC. Written as if you are reading it straight from her personal journal, the dating advice shared in the book feels possible and achievable as you learn through the lens of honest and real dating stories.
While dating lessons are the focus of this book, the true lesson is hidden in the pages… can you find it?
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